Stephanie Salisbury: Don’t get caught up in the heat of the moment

Published 11:10 pm Wednesday, August 15, 2012

In the heat of the moment, we can say awful, terrible things to people we care about deeply.  We can, in a split second, bring someone down in unimaginable ways.

And with the dawning of social networks, our thoughts can be broadcasted to 650 of our “friends,” so they can all sympathize with us.  What we often don’t realize, however, is that the heat of the moment does not last.  It usually cools into small embers, then disappears quickly.

Our words do not disappear. They cut, slice and stab, and though it is possible for the wound to heal somewhat through a heartfelt apology, the scars linger. We can never be certain of what repercussions are wrought simply by our decision to wag or bite our tongue … or our typing fingers.

“When you talk, do not say harmful things, but say what people need: words that will help others become stronger.” — Ephesians 4:29.

It might be difficult to use the “This Might Not Be the Right Thing to Say” filter in your head, but I guarantee it’s a lot easier to use than the “How Do I Take Back What I

Just Said Because I Didn’t Really Mean It” machine. Such a machine does not exist. The filter does.

Your words have the ability to infuse someone with positive energy, to encourage them in their endeavors, to praise them for doing the right thing. Your words have the power to lift someone’s spirit when they’re having a bad day, to restore their faith in humanity when they’re at the end of their rope.

The same mouth you use to curse and argue with someone can be used, instead, to bless them and to work alongside them in harmony.

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