Jessica Sieff: Justice needed for Phoebe PrincePublished 10:10am Friday, April 16, 2010
Especially during passing periods when the hallways fill up.
I can’t help it. It takes a special kind of adult to withstand a teenage world. I used to be a teenager, I know.
High schools are supposed to be filled with promise, prom nights and big play productions and everything that could be.
But to me, they’re not. They’re filled with an immature arrogance and an overwhelming lack of work ethic.
I’m being cynical, of course.
I felt entirely different back when I was in one.
When I think back, high school was actually not all that bad after the first couple of years.
I went to three different schools, so I never started in a new building with the same kids.
Always new, always trying to re-establish something.
Though I would never say I’ve experienced what it’s like to be bullied, I can say I was taunted enough in some cases that I now easily catch the look in the eye of the kid who just doesn’t fit in. It’s like a club.
It hurt and it wasn’t fun but I guess, when I look at it now, I was lucky. Because I got by.
I’d throw out a quick retort or simply stand up for myself or even better, make a joke.
Eventually everyone saw I was super smart and super funny.
I’ll even say right here in print – senior year, I was prom queen.
But when I see those kids who have yet to find their footing, my heart breaks a little for them.
Because it’s not easy being that kid. At a time in life when it’s all about being accepted, being rejected takes a test of will.
It takes knowing the secret that we’re all just trying to be bigger than what we are. And eventually we’ll fit in our own shoes and that’ll be all that matters.
I always see those kids, the ones who are walking home alone or not easily invited into a group to play and I think, hopefully they get it. Because I always thought the kids who got it will make it out alive.
But now, taunting has metamorphosed into an absolute monstrosity. The proof of that being the death of 15-year-old Phoebe Prince, bullied so viciously, so relentlessly, so vehemently that she chose to take her own life back in January.
She was found hanging from a scarf in the stairway.
Before she ever got a chance to see the glow of a senior prom.
She’d started school coming straight out of her native Ireland.
Where the accents are so melodious they hide the truth of the troubles most of the time.
And she went to a place where the trouble was spit about like venom.
Now her bullies, a star football player (who reportedly briefly dated Prince), his girlfriend and another young man face federal criminal charges.
I don’t understand maliciousness. I don’t get how someone wakes up one day and purposefully hurts another human being for no other reason than they get some kind of kick out of it.
Teenagers are a breed of their own, sure, but something shorts out when bullying gets to the point that considering death is a reprieve.
And making anyone feel that way is worth the punishment.
Now the nation debates a.) Whether or not Prince’s accused bullies should even be facing charges and b.) Whether or not school officials were active enough in trying to address the issue.
Yes, they should and no, they obviously did not.
And while Massachusetts is at it, they should personally escort the parents of these bullies to a few charges as well.
What happened to Prince was not bullying but a serious societal malfunction.
Where on earth did those kids get the idea that harassing a young girl, calling her names relentlessly, giving her a horrible reputation and maintaining that reputation to no end was okay?
What does it say about us that we breed these kinds of people?
There are horrible individuals in the world, obviously. There are larger atrocities than this.
But making someone feel utterly hated, utterly worthless and picking at their vulnerabilities as if they have some sort of afforded right – when did we start turning a blind eye to that?
All debates aside, when it’s all over, the Princes will still be robbed a daughter because of a couple of kids who felt they had a right to make someone else feel as she must have.
May they learn the true meaning of bullying from the fine professors at the state penitentiary.
Jessica Sieff reports for Leader Publications. Reach her at email@example.com.